June 9, 2020
Written on behalf of Daniel H. Chambers Attorney at Law, P .C.
Considering divorce? Maybe you’re currently in the process. Either way, it’s important to be prepared for what you could be facing after it’s all said and done.
Here are five common emotions that come after a divorce is finalized.
“Could I have done more to fix us?”
It takes two people to make a marriage work. If you tried to get your spouse to go to marital counseling and work on your relationship, but your spouse wouldn’t budge, it’s not your fault. You did what you could.
“Am I ruining my kid’s life?”
This question comes up a lot. It’s a hard situation, there’s no getting around that. But it’s better than the alternative of raising your children in a toxic, or even abusive, environment with constant fighting.
You went from seeing your kids every day to having to split your time with them. Now you’re desperately missing them when they’re gone. You might even find yourself missing your ex despite the fact that you weren’t happy together.
As you adjust to having more time for yourself, you’ll gradually learn how to fill it with things that make you happy. For some, that might mean eventually finding a new partner, but not everyone feels that way.
Many people find that they prefer to fill their time with more work or hobbies, for example. It all depends on you and your preferences.
You’re dealing with a major loss and sorrow is bound to fill your heart. The grief might even be constant for a period of time.
It’s important to have a strong support system to help you get through these feelings. This could include family, friends, or therapy.
“Can I move forward on my own?”
Yes, you can. You had a life before being married, you can have a life after divorce.
“Am I good enough?”
Yes, you are. You’re good enough to be a single parent, to remarry, to be a career-only person, or anything else you want to be.
You define who you want to be, what you want to do, and how you want to live your life.
“Do I have to find another partner?”
No, you don’t. You’re also not obligated to be married again if you decide it’s not right for you.
Many people date without getting married and don’t feel the need to put labels on their relationships. There have also been plenty of people who have lived alone for the rest of their lives without being lonely.
As long as you’re listening to your heart, you’ll make the best decisions for your life.
Attorney Daniel H. Chambers has dedicated his career to helping clients successfully resolve their various divorce and family law issues. He understands that divorce proceedings can be extremely complicated, even frightening, and is available to answer any questions or concerns you may have now and throughout the entire legal process.
To discuss your divorce specifics with a skilled Alabama divorce lawyer, contact Daniel Chambers today!
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